Many people go through this but that doesn’t make it any less frustrating. We often refuse to speak about topics because of awkwardness but there are some things better spoken on even if they may offend some people.
It’s very frustrating to me as a straight woman who doesn’t sleep around, to have to combat the lies of being a lesbian. Please let this be a warning that as I climb the ladder of life not to call me this. I know there are things that we can’t control but it would be magnificent if I could nip this one in the bud from the beginning. As someone who has seriously considered being a Sex Therapist, I completely understand the heightened interest of people in girl-on-girl contact. Both heterosexual and homosexuals think about these matters.
Like in High School… I am sure someone will gleefully use this pet peeve of mine against me. Human sexuality goes through cycles of interest, curiosity even obsession. I am far from homophobic and I don’t need to explain that, but you will see what I am talking about eventually.
Relationships are customized in this world. My perspective may not be your perspective and I accept that.
Usually, I use restraint in my personal relationships. I don’t see anything wrong with a woman dating multiple men at the same time, as long as she’s not having intercourse with all of them. Furthermore, I would label no party a whore or playboy if that’s what they choose to do until engagement. Promise rings are a joke to me. They are often just strings and I don’t like them. What do you think about promise rings?
My bad experiences with women, who don’t like men, have been an issue.
Women, for some reason or another, have tried to get me away from men by telling me that they will beat me up (I’ve been told specifically that white men will beat me up), that they only want to piss on me, and that they will try to sexually molest my child.
My experience has been that black men will hit you and threaten you and white men will hit you, women will hit you and threaten you if they think they will get away with it. They’ll also lie, lie and lie again. Not all but some. Have you had this experience at all?
I confess in the past one of my female friends grabbed my butt after I told her not to and I pulled her hair. We both could have been hauled off by the police that day. I love her anyway.
When people understand that you won’t tolerate abuse, things calm down much quicker. Predatory behavior is part of the human condition and I am not speaking only, specifically about sexual nature. When we want food and we see it… Then we hunt it.
Hearing harsh things about the opposite sex can influence how we view relationships along with projection. If the men are wondering how the ladies are getting your ladies it’s pretty simple. They are catching them when they are vunerable and teaching them how to fly. Hoping that you won’t. They’re scaring them with propaganda and doing what some modern men are refusing to do. Many are sharing their real-life experiences with other women about men with the intent of seduction.
So what can you do?
Get to know the person you are dating.
Learn about them and the type of things they’re into.
If something happens talk to them about it, misunderstandings do happen.
However…
If you think the person you’re dating will not respect your boundaries. Then let them go.
Bye Felicia, Bye, Bye
