Not being able to have children anymore can be very hard for some women. I have observed an uptick in women who can no longer have children, and grandmothers who try to take children away from good parents. They attempt this through deceit and lies. Sometimes, they fool even their closest friends. I can’t give names, but there was a woman that I used to know.
She did all kinds of deceitful and hurtful things to this mother, because she was jealous of how great a parent she was. She put up road blocks left and right, and even pulled the church into her sick game. She lied to the people, saying the mom would not let her see the child. She stole the child’s trust fund money, and tried to use it as leverage to show the child she could provide a better life. She alienated the child from his dad, and other friends and family, by degrading the mother for no reason. She could have three extra cars, and if the mother’s car broke down, she wouldn’t think of loaning her one without degrading her. Her grandchild could be getting checked for a major illness, and she still would not care unless she had control.
These older women are suffering with mental illness. Sometimes depending on the family, they are suffering from racism. We have to admit that if it is a situation where the mother is a younger black woman and the grandmother is a white woman or just has significantly more cash it will be a problem for the mother. For some, it’s narcissism, and for others, it’s something else, and yet we fail to call it what it is, and address the dangers of their conditions.
This situation may ring a bell with you, but be assured, it is not about you. This is something that happens in families everywhere and everyday.
Women who are aging would really benefit from connecting with life coaches, personal advisors, friends, support groups, and psychologists. They need people who will tell them the truth, and not feed into their fantasies. If a woman has not come to terms with not being a child’s mother, or able to have more children, she could kidnap the child, hurt a pregnant woman, or even worse.
These people need help and treatment. This way, when Empty Nest Syndrome hits, or a woman can no longer have children of her own, she can explore healthy options.
Destroying innocent parents and causing them problems to make them look unfit is not only dangerous to the wellbeing of the immediate family but dangerous for our future.
We still have systematic issues and there are many people of all races who will acknowledge this.
As technology advances we need to move from a reactive model to a proactive model and I will explain why in a later post.
